Our daughter Kali lived and died on November 13, 1993.
Once a soul is loved, it lives with you forever.
Kali was loved. Kali is loved.
And so she lives on.
1. Life and death . . .
- Does it ever change? Back in their day, they didn’t talk about infant loss. So would they understand our pain? Do some things change?
- Cemetery people If you’re a cemetery person, you’ll get this. For reasons I can’t explain, this feels good today and I’m grateful for it.
- I wish . . . but I am I’m very aware of what I am not doing today. I visit there now and again, especially today. But I can’t live there.
- Living well–through life, through death Has having a child in heaven changed the way we parent our children here? Probably.
2. When you . . .
- When you doubt God’s timing She came too early. And left too soon. Even though I knew she lived on, I wondered how I would.
- When you don’t understand Angie Smith writes that it’s easy to be a believer when you get your miracle. But what happens when you don’t? I Will Carry You is an important book for anyone who has lost a baby.
- When time runs out She took the shortcut home. I’m taking the long way round. But when time runs out . . .
- When you need to cry It doesn’t mean you’re weak. Or faithless. Or atheist. It just means you’re sad.
3. Just reflecting . . .
- Dear Kali, Today you’d be 17 Yet this year is different. You’ve got Nana and Granddaddy with you today.
- My Kali plate I’ve never eaten off this dish. Nor will I.
- All roads lead home Comings and goings of Daughter # 3, # 1, # 2. One day we’ll all be Home.
- The right song at the right time “This life is not my own.” I have to be reminded of that quite often. I don’t control who lives or dies, or who God brings into or out of my life.
Part of living life well is learning to live through death well.
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